Domestic Duties

I currently hate this term 'domestic duties' because frankly it is very one sided. Men honestly don't understand what it means to have domestic duties or what is involved in getting them completed. What burns me is when all the hard work that is done get's glossed over with 'those are her domestic duties'. Frankly that is crap!

Women are natures managers and leaders. This is confirmed on a daily basis. Most men would reply to such a statement with 'men are the doers'. Well MEN, if you are the doers are you also prepared to be the do-overs too? I have found since being a mom that my skills for managing have been honed rapidly. Children make you a multitasker. Men make you the omni tasker (she who does everything, or feels like it anyway).

If you work from home like I do your job is given less credibilty than those women who work outside the home. That is total nonsense...okay..that is total BS!!! I work from home doing something I really like, it challenges me, it lets me use my creative talents and it makes me available to my children who are not yet in school but almost. However because I don't go out to a job it isn't considered work, even though there are deadlines, time sheets and pay days involved. Nope, as far as the men in my community are concerned I am doing nothing short of sitting on my ass all day watching the grass grow. Demeaning to say the least. Being a Mom is a full time job, so is being a wife/life partner. I honestly don't think men get that. We have to make sure that their needs are met, they are fed, entertained, comforted, supported....and when we ask for our feet rubbed they make out like they have been run ragged. When they screw up...being the doers....who has to fix the screwups? that's right the women... It is a rare quality in someone ( of either gender) to admit that they are wrong or made a mistake. It is often rarer still to hear someone say thank you for a job done. Imagine this if you will...a woman takes care of her child(ren) all day and the husband has been at work, away from the kids. He comes home with the expectation that his house is still standing, his child(ren) are safe and this immediate needs (food/comfort) are going to be met. And when they are what do we hear? .....SILENCE!!! never a thank you or wow you worked hard today. Men assume and then get bitchy when we have to tell them how to do things. It isn't like they would do it or do it right.

Yes this post is me venting, my blog is about me venting. I see too many women, great women, not get the support they need. Especially when they are having to juggle multiple roles and are doing that successfully. I resent not being taken seriously. I resent being second guessed and treated like hired help. I HATE THE LACK OF THANK YOUS!!!

Okay...here endeth my sermon for now. The house is quiet. The kids are hopefully asleep after their father read them a story ( tonight I rebelled, I let him have the honours). I have dinner dishes to clean up, camp prep for a 5 year old tomorrow and a quick tidy up so no one looses a limb in the dark navigating around little man's trucks.

For all the women out there and the men who are doing the work too (I know you are out there) I say Thank you! Thank you for caring about others, thank you for your hard work. Thank you for doing the hardest job there is out there...being a parent.

Am I crazy?

Every once and a while I start to wonder if I am crazy. Things that piss me off don't seem to phase many people. Is that because I care too much or my priorities are screwed up. I am trying very hard not to start saying things that will get me into trouble so for now...just for now I am going to end my blurb here.

Don't worry...there is plenty more inside waiting to get out....